About Tai Fenix Kulystin, MA, CSB, CCTP

Tai Fenix Kulystin teaching at a LLR Aphrodite TempleI am an identity and intimacy geek, embodiment educator, sacred sexuality practitioner and guide, priest/ess, and ritual artist. Since 2011, I have been facilitating classes, workshops, and sacred sexuality temples around the Pacific Northwest. Conscious Pleasure began as a client-centered somatic sex coaching practice in 2013 after I became a Certified Sexological Bodyworker.

I hold a Master's degree in Sacred Erotic Psychology from Antioch University Seattle. My degree and work is focused on the uniting of concepts from depth psychology, sacred sexuality, and erotic neurobiology to assist understanding of the Self through the erotic/alchemical union of the individual soul-spirit-body with others and the world.

In addition to being a Certified Sexological Bodyworker (CSB) through the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, I am also a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) through the International Association of Trauma Professionals (IATP). My undergraduate degrees are in Gender Studies (with an emphasis in queer and gender theory) and Psychology (with an emphasis in sexual behavior).

Other notable education is my certification in Transpersonal Hypnotherapy from the Institute for Therapeutic Learning, and I attended the Summer Institute on Sexuality, Culture, and Society at the University of Amsterdam. I have taken classes and workshops from numerous researchers and educators whose work influences and inspires mine, including: Bessel Van Der Kolk, Stephen Porges, Dan Siegel, John and Julie Gottman, Karla McLaren, Betty Martin, Teri D. Ciacchi, Captain Snowdon, and Lee Harrington. Beyond classes I have directly taken, I am also deeply informed by the work of Peter Levine, Brene Brown, Bill Plotkin, Barbara Frederickson, James Hillman, Marie Louise Von Franz, Carl G. Jung, Sam Keen, Gabor Mate, and Audre Lorde.

I maintain professional membership in the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB) and I adhere to Sexological Bodyworker's Professional Code of Ethics. I am a professional member of AASECT (The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) and the IATP.

All of that said, while professional certifications and qualifications are important, they also only mean so much. They can give you an idea of my background and some idea of my skills, but what's most important in this work is ability and intention. I make it my mission to be mindful, kind, compassionate, and heart-centered in all that I do. I have been told that I hold exquisite space for others and that I am gentle and calming to be around. My goals and intentions in doing this work are to assist and support my clients (and everyone) in being and embracing their whole self, and in doing so to help change the world one person at a time.

Personally, I identify as queer, trans, genderqueer, fem, fat, white (primarily of English descent with some German, French Canadian, and Eastern European mixed in), polyamorous, kinky, neurodivergent, and a witch. I strive to be anti-oppressive. My pronouns are they/them/theirs.

As a student and practitioner of magic and witchcraft for over half of my life, I have a love of bringing the sacred and ritual into all aspects of my life and work. I am currently studying the Anderson Feri/Faery tradition of witchcraft in addition to being an Adept in the Open Source Order of the Golden Dawn, a practical and erotic Alchemist, and having studied witchcraft since my early teenage years. For the past eleven years, I have been a devotee of The Red Goddess: Babalon. I have been working with her within a queer sex magic framework dedicated to personal growth, embodiment, eroticism, sacred kink, and much more.

I have dedicated my life, both personally and professionally, to practicing sacred sexual healing, encouraging personal spiritual and psychological growth in themselves and others, helping to foster the expansion of human consciousness, and furthering the healing of the earth.

Feel free to contact me with any questions or inquiries.

Credentials

  • Masters of Arts in Sacred Erotic Psychology, Antioch University Seattle
  • Sexological Bodywork Certificate, Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality
  • Clinical Trauma Professional Certificate, International Association of Trauma Professionals
  • Sexuality, Culture, and Society Certificate, University of Amsterdam
  • Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB), Professional Member
  • American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), Professional Member
  • International Association of Trauma Professionals (IATP), Member
  • Transpersonal Hypnotherapy Certificate, Institute for Therapeutic Learning
  • Bachelors of Science in Psychology, University of Utah
  • Bachelors of Science in Gender Studies, University of Utah

It is through my experience with disconnection that I have become interested in connection. Through my experience with struggling with my own sexuality, desires, and disembodiment/disassociation that I come to this work. It is because I have done the work to claim my sexuality, to repair my relationship with my body, to become more fully and truly myself, that I know I can help lead you through the same.

I grew up closed, depressed, and overall disconnected from those around me. I was a fat queer genderqueer kid in a society that discourages all of those experiences. Like so many of us, I felt consistently alone and disconnected, even or especially when among friends. Even with (or maybe partially because of) all that disconnection I was fascinated by sexuality and everything surrounding it from a very early age. While I was in high school I participated in and lead queer rights activism groups and events in my hometown. I was the one my friends always came to with questions about sexuality and relationships.

Now I am in a conscious, committed, and polyamorous relationship with my anchor partner of well over a decade. Through the many years of this relationship I realized it was necessary for me to open up and cast aside my isolationist habits or lose the relationship. Working to break down the walls I had built up around myself was not easy, and I am still working to heal that rejected child part of myself.

Sacred sexuality was one of many shared interests that brought my partner and me together. We have always approached our relationship from a place of spirituality, including recognizing our connection with the divine with a dedication to use our relationship to foster growth in both ourselves and each other. This is one of the many factors that helped us commit to each other early on and make it through some tough times.

I work to engage in sacred relationship/sexuality as an intentionally lived daily practice and it has become part of the central focus of my life and a realization of my life’s work.