When was the last time you slowed down and really listened to your body?

Our bodies hold so much, from past experiences to present challenges to the possibility of pleasure. Our bodies remember the traumatic experiences we have endured and hold the key to releasing them as well.

 
Trauma is getting a lot of attention these days, but what does it really mean? Any experience that is overwhelming for our nervous system is traumatic, but not all traumatic experiences become stuck trauma in our bodies. The difference is in our relationship to what happened including: how we process it, our emotions about it, and when or if we release it.

Whether your stuck trauma comes from a single incident, childhood experiences, adult relationships, experiences of oppression, societal expectations, or a mixture of any or all of these, we can work together support your growth and transformation.

 
I can help you identify stuck patterns in your relationships to yourself, to others, and to the world so you can get unstuck. So often what is stuck in ourselves are old emotions and old coping strategies that helped to keep us alive. These coping strategies deserve our gratitude, but they may also hold us back in the name of keeping us safe. We may not need to hold on to them forever. My job is to help you unravel these old patterns and help you recognize the choices you didn't know you already have.

Through exploring empathy, embodiment, and pleasure, we can work together to design the type of life you want to live, the type of person you want to be, and the type of relationships you want to have. I can support you through the process of becoming.

 

Through fully embracing our own erotic experiences of desire and pleasure we are given access to our deep, whole Self.

My work intentionally includes sexuality and the erotic, because so many others do not. These may be of central focus to our work together, as your trauma may include sexual or relational trauma, or these may be impacted by your trauma. Either way, relationships, sexuality, and the erotic are important in every kind of traumatic experience, as our trauma usually involves some kind of relationship.
 

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Conscious Pleasure is trauma-knowledgeable, heart-centered, therapeutic coaching for adults of all genders, sizes, sexualities, spiritualities, and relationship statuses who are struggling with sexuality, identity, or intimacy and who long to be seen. I create public and private workshops and work in private sessions with individuals, couples, and relationships who span the gender, sexuality, and religious spectra. I work with transgender, non-binary, and cisgender people; with gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, and asexual people; with pagans, atheists, and theists; with people struggling to accept their own bodies.

Sessions are usually a blend of therapeutic talking/mind-based interaction, body-based/embodiment exercises, and/or educational-therapeutic touch. The session experience is completely dependent upon your goals and comfort, and focused on increasing your experience of embodiment and intimacy with yourself, others, and the world.

My approach is based on the work I did for my Master's degree in Sacred Erotic Psychology, certifications in Sexological Bodywork (CSB), Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and Transpersonal Hypnotherapy, as well as numerous hours of work with clients and with myself. I have extensive knowledge of and personal experience with trauma, queer / lgbpa+ and trans/non-binary experiences, kink/bdsm, polyamory/non-monogamy, and more.

I am unapologetically and radically queer, trans-inclusive, consent-based, sex-positive, feminist, anti-oppressive, trauma-informed, kink-knowledgeable, poly-normative, and non-appropriative in my values. I recognize these values are ideals to continuously strive toward and I desire to create a safer space based upon these ideals. I also recognize that I may fall short of these ideals, and will always welcome feedback on how I can do better.

Note: All of my clients are legal adults (at least 18 years of age).
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